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As a fan of United States of Fear, having just read it for the second time, I enjoyed this pair of articles and the notes on McDonald's text.

In fact, I live in McDonald's own neighborhood (West LA) and I can verify that his description of fearful wives and their husbands who abdicate masculine responsibility is right on the money.

McDonald makes a tangential remark that testosterone has steeply declined over the past few generations of men, but I would go so far as to say that is the primary cause of the decline in masculine behavior.

To be a masculine husband and father, it is not sufficient to read the right books and think the right thoughts. One must actually be biologically masculine. Male sex hormones drive behavior in a way that simple cognition does not.

To be biologically masculine, a man must avoid toxins, eat species-appropriate food, get plenty of sunlight and fresh air, lift heavy weights, perform physical labor, and regularly take physical and social risks.

All of these prerequisites are in very short supply among men in Los Angeles, and as I have noticed for years, it is the women who suffer most. The emasculated men are content with what we might call "simple pleasures."

I have tried to live a different example for my wife and daughter, especially after reading McDonald's book on its release, and it seems I have largely succeeded, as my wife turned decisively against Covid fearmongering after an initial period of indecision. Neither she nor my five-year-old daughter wear masks, which is unusual in their demographic. My daughter has not received any vaccines at all -- and she is now the healthiest and most intelligent child I know. My wife is now firmly in the Covid-skeptic camp, but I'm sure things would have turned out more darkly, had I been one of those men who masked up fearfully, embraced the experimental gene therapy, and hesitated to challenge his wife's less rational fears.

I am convinced my positive influence was not because I was particularly intelligent, well-read or persuasive, but simply and reassuringly masculine. Consider all this my anecdote in support of McDonald's thesis.

BTW, it would have been nice to post some of these thoughts on McDonald's Substack, but as you may know, he restricts comment to paying subscribers. So, thanks to Dr. Hughes for allowing public comment on her notes to this important book.

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Very insightful

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Thanks Timothy, great story and comment. If you would like to, I'd love you to write a couple of thousand words on your and your family's story and I'll build an article around it. It's an open invitation and my email is unbekoming@outlook.com

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Fantastic read! Thank you

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as a sigma male (similar to alpha but better because we are not show-offs or requiring all the attention) all i remember during the mask phase of totalitarianism is the fear on mostly womens but some mens faces when they saw me without a mask. no one confronted me except one old lady whilst she was queuing up outside a store i was going past on a walk, i just laughed at her and kept going.

women dont know what they want any more, they say one thing and do the opposite

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Sep 29, 2022Liked by Unbekoming

If it is any consolation, there were certainly some women admirers out there that you were not aware of at the time. I loved seeing other people without masks. Women, yes, but seeing a man without a mask would really make my day each time :)

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This is an OUTSTANDING commentary...truly! It enthralled me. I am on the cusp of the Baby Boom generation -1963. My bf and I have both noticed the feminine nature of men these days. It’s so foreign to me, because I grew up in my younger days with Alpha males...it was a given! And men wanted to be Alpha males! I see men in grocery stores with masks on that seem scared of their own shadow! Women must allow men to be men and stop trying to always be in charge. I was a deputy sheriff for 23 years, but when that uniform came off, I wanted a man to take charge! No, I don’t want to make decisions. I want the MAN to do that, please!

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Thank you!

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It's interesting how women often try to change men.

If a man lets a woman change him into what she thinks she wants, usually he turns out to be the opposite of what she actually needs.

Besides the environmental toxins, it's long been observed that good times make weak men, and weak men make hard times.

We're on the cusp of some *really* hard times and now it's time for the next generation of men to forge themselves in the fire of adversity. And become strong.

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There’s a lot to be said for women inspiring men to do their best, and I expect this is where the instinct to “change” men comes from.

However, that requires the woman to hold herself to an equally high standard, and today’s women are as inconsistent at that as today’s men.

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Sep 28, 2022·edited Sep 28, 2022

Jordan Peterson for starters is a limited hangout. Much like the former darling of the anti imperialists/globalists and now outed as one of their gatekeepers, Noam Chomsky. What actually is taking place is a psychological operation by social engineers in the employ of a pyramid cap with a whole set of agenda and a final end goal as seen in their Moonshot Project 2050. The topic here is but one level in a spectrum of fronts, each with many levels. I suggest the reader here regard this essay as a half truth and do some research into the Rockefeller Foundations efforts to first get women into the workforce and then militarized through the 1st (legit) through 4th wave of feminism (illegitimate). This while at the same time attacking men socio economically, culturally, through new family law - easy divorce and family breakup, for the desired reaction by men of relationship avoidance with the resulting collapse of family formation. Social media as a manipulation has greatly added fuel to this fire. Single parent households headed by women too often bring any sons she has up to be simps. Simps, feminized males - not men, being the true opposite of what women actually want in a relationship with a man. On the other hand masculine men do not see any value in the 4th wave feminist women today that would get them to commit. As the family structure as the basis of society crumbles, two parent family formation at an all time low and declining, the pyramid cap will reset what the basic foundational structure for society will be....in their own interests!

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The loss of society's cohesion at the very base (male-fem. relationship, family) renders it to control and manipulation. It is difficult not to see it

as very well planned in advance and now coming very handy indeed in time

of globally orchestrated calamity. Many decades long process the effects of which can be seen so very clearly now.

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