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I wonder whether all these “gender” things are only one huge symptom of quite a different story.

As far back as I can remember, some 60 years ago, we, kids, we weren’t even aware of these “problems”. What is today so loud in public sphere was there, probably a lot of it under the carpet, a lot experienced in silence and loneliness, because these were not matters to be even mentioned. Here we are today. I’d risk a statement that we (adults after say their 50s) cognitively don’t know what is happening. We don’t have any reference from our own childhood.

We lived in the acceptance of what is as it is. Fate, destiny, whatever you can call it, we lived it. For sure, the content of hormone disruptors in market food was lower. And the general resiliency of kids was beyond the wildest dreams of today’s smartphone slaves. This in “developed” countries like the U.S., Canada or Europe. How kids lived (and still live) in all other places of the Earth is another level, not even available to us. They are real survivors, we have been just lucky.

In my view, the first part of life is here for us to look around and assimilate. We aren’t here to find “identity”, we have just arrived with zero knowledge of the place. Everything is strange to us. We don’t recognize sounds, well, until we find out that we get a lot of fun when we train the giants to react to our mumbling “ma” or “mum”.

“Identity” is a problem of adults who must have a clear demarcation line for friends and enemies...

read more here:

https://thepathishere.substack.com/p/mis-identifying-identity

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Very informative. There's no doubt that early childhood trauma has a profound and lasting effect on people.

There seems to be an epidemic of gender dysphoria today, and I wonder - has it always been this way, but we are now more aware of it? Is it all caused by trauma. I have my doubts, especially when as many as twenty percent of young people say they are trans.

I think another factor to consider - and IMO one of the root causes - is vaccine caused brain damage. Damage to the deepest parts of the brain. The part that actually directs your thinking process, and the part that controls your endocrine system, and in turn is affected by it. The parts that make you....YOU.

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The name of Dr. Harry Benjamin appears here in a quotation, reporting "that 80% of those seeking a sex change should not have one; frequently too many of them committed suicide."

Well, yes. That is why the WPATH protocol existed as it did in the past (no longer), and it seems to me to have had a positive effect back then. As I have said before, I transitioned MTF in 2006-7 (at age 56-57), successfully as these things go, knowing what I was getting into and that it wasn't going to solve all my problems. I don't recall ever hearing of anyone among those I knew de-transitioning, although I did wonder about how successful some of them were going to be. Now I only hear about reckless transitioning and regret-laden de-transitioning.

But mine was a different era. I saw the activism enter in later, after I had parted ways with the trans community, as we typically did back then. I can't go near that community now.

My gender identity issues arose very early on, and I had a childhood transition plan of sorts that fell apart when I eventually learned about "anatomical differences", something nobody had ever talked about with me. Being an only child is likely what allowed that plan to linger for as long as it did.

I had no history of sexual abuse. The cause more likely was in-utero pharmaceutical poisoning (DES). There were many cases of that, and that poison remained on the market for another 20 years after I was born so I suspect that many of those people are still out there having problems similar to mine, including endocrine disorders and cancer, but who are now being exploited mercilessly.

The problems I experienced included partial puberty failure, physical weakness, asexuality, sterility, and no internal identification whatsoever with the male of the species, not the slightest. It would be incorrect, however, to say that I identified (or identify) as a woman in the ordinary sense. My life is far too disjointed for that. I spend most of my time with women, and we have much in common. I call it "affinity" rather than "identity".

After my anatomy lesson followed 45 years of gender dysphoria, until I transitioned with surgery. It actually can work sometimes, and I had other friends that transitioned successfully as well, a few without surgery. But none of us was being exploited like what is taking place now.

I see the word "faith" appearing once in this post, and Jesus appears twice in one sentence. When I transitioned, I had no expectations of ever being involved with churches again. I had spent most of my adult life away from them, and pretty much all of my life hiding from them. I was totally fed up with them, I thought. I did learn, during my time in the trans community, of the churches that weren’t like that, but I wasn't particularly interested in those.

Seven years after I transitioned, however, I found myself mysteriously drawn to one of those "liberal" churches. I was a California lefty at the time, and it was workable, their theology being a total mess anyway (and I knew that).

Now, 16+ years post-transition, and with no desire whatsoever to de-anything, I have been involved now for over nine years with evangelical churches, as a member most of that time. It's an interesting outreach to say the least, and I am not hiding. I'm "out" to staff, as if they couldn't figure it out anyway. But it's good to fill in selected details. I've sung in two choirs, as an alto more recently, I taught 3rd grade Sunday school in the past, and I lead a small group presently. How this works, I don't exactly know. It was not in my plans, but it seems to have been in somebody's.

I know, this post is supposed to be about the horrors of de-transition and here I am writing about successful transitions (for privacy reasons I don't write about the other successful transitions I know about). The solution for de-transition is to not be suckered into transitioning inappropriately in the first place.

That used to be made abundantly clear to would-be transitioners, but now it's a hard problem to solve, with so many people being suckered into so many terrible scams these days. It's been a problem all along, but it is so much worse now.

The way out of this mess is to connect with the actual truths of our existence. The big lie at the root of the mess is that God doesn't exist. (Is it an "official story?") This is a lie people can see through for themselves, if they can but cease listening to the purveyors of the lies and look for themselves. This truth is visible in creation, for those with eyes that are open and seeing.

It is not an easy, comfortable way out. It can be very difficult. But for those that seek the truth, none of that matters. The truth matters, first, and then the well-being of others. It means not putting yourself first.

That's mostly not what is happening in this world of ours.

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Thank you for this, I really appreciate you sharing your experience!

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Mar 6Liked by Unbekoming

You should put this on the PITT Substack.

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