If you think that what's happening is about matriarchal systems of power you would be gravely mistaken. Studies have repeatedly proven that matriarchal systems are universally egalitarian and focused on reverence for life, child, family and community. They are cooperative by design.
What we're seeing is simply women's interpretation of patriarchy which we've all been indoctrinated into which is that power matters more than interrelationships - whether it's an individual wielding it, or a collective, men or women.
Educated women, having been raised in a culture under which women have endured oppression for millennia, are now seeing their rights slip away once again. Not to mention the very language we use for our bodies and experiences - non-men, front hole, chestfeeding anyone? Women have been forced to adopt a masculine style of leadership which every male tyrant has used successfully and many still do today. They see the mostly male clubs that engineer social upheaval through predatory capitalism, the exploitation of labour and the travesty of gonzo porn. Wheir response is a type of Stockholm Syndrome. What women wants to align themselves with being a target of that?
Trans ideology is eviscerating women's rights. Women, indoctrinated to always 'be kind' have been blind-sided by the sheer insanity of this misogynist ideology. What most women don't know is that it's tech bros who are engineering the erasure of women with their transhumanism agenda. Whether it's putting male rapists in women's prisons or prioritizing male trans surgeries over women's life-threatening gynecological treatment, men in women's sports or the loss of job opportunities and scholarships to men dressed as women, it's clear that the the only women who will survive are the ones who are willing to demonstrate a leadership style that enables them to fit in. Even if it's at the expense of their ethics.
And it's important to understand that it's actually men pulling the strings of women like Harris, but also many men in politics. I have no doubt that she's a puppet doing the bidding of her masters.
So, while I agree that white men are being treated unfairly in many ways, consider that against the backdrop of the sex trafficking trade which is exploding globally enslaving millions of women and children to service the buyers - mostly white male porn and prostitution buyers.
At the end if the day, it's not really about men and women so much as it's about power and who is abusing it - the elite men and their minions, both men and women, who enable them. Until humanity is willing to confront these people and make the decision not to enable those who abuse power, men will, by their sheer physical strength continue to impose their will on the rest of us.
The reason you and all other women were capable of raising children and having harmony is because there were men PROTECTING you and HUNTING for you and your children for all human history. This was then and this is now, but instutionalized. You have police, construction workers, butchers, military, road workers, etc., that are mostly MALES. We men have an INSTICNCT to protect women, not to rape them. If we were naturally rapists, feminism could've ever been possible. If our inclination were to opress women, why would we stop opressing you? The only reason you believe you don't need men or that men and women are equals is because there is an economic system and social norms that privileges you. Women is the PROTECTED sex while men is the DISPOSABLE sex. Look around you. We men didn't exclude wonen from political society because we are opressors. We did it because women are EMOTIONAL, SOLIPSISTIC, and MANIPULATIVE and there are a lot of SIMPS out there that will do anything to feed their fantasies and delusions for a bite of pussy. Women just are an obstacle for the order of men. Women are now in charge and civilization have never been more irrational. We just replaced physical violence for psychological violence.
Men love to believe that narrative but if that's true how is it that most men love to consume porn, violent porn, child porn? Porn is the ultimate degradation and dehumanization of women. Everywhere you look men seem to love bullying each other and those who are weaker.
The reality is that most men are emotional toddlers, bullies, or predators except for the small percentage of decent, compassionate, wise men that do have respect for women. The #MeToo movement was supposed to be a wake up call for men to call out other men for their misogynist behaviour. Instead, as always, women's concerns, stories and experiences were dismissed as overreaction or drama. Women were gaslit into believing that our experiences were trivial. Though there were a small percentage of women who were milking it, the vast majority of women shared their harrowing stories of abuse which were very real and deserved to be heard.
In any case, patriarchy also exploits men. You're correct that culture treats men as disposable. It's wrong but that's not women's fault. That's a function of our biology. Women bear children at a potential rate of 1 per year. We invest our entire bodies in the process . Men can potentially impregnate thousands of women in that same year. However, in a healthy society, in order for the species to survive, women choose only those men who have good genes and who prove they can provide. THAT'S BIOLOGY. It's not women's fault that men are treated as disposable.
My premise is that being a women does NOT mean privilege for the vast majority of women. Women work, just like men do AND care for children AND aging parents AND volunteer in their communities at far greater rates AND with NO PAY.
Instead of being angry at women, why not change the system that sets up both women and men to fail. A system BTW that is controlled by alpha male billionaires who have rigged it to benefit their tech bros and fellow billionaires in order to dominate the entire world.
Women aren't the problem. Women are trying to hold their sh*t together while men go off and fight their endless wars, watch war video games, play violent sports.
Women are afraid of men. We no longer see men as protectors if we ever did They aren't gentlemen. They aren't providers. Women's liberation became absolutely necessary BECAUSE men had failed to keep up their end if the biological roles. Women's lives were a hellscape at the beginning of the 1900's. Industrialization was destroying them and their children. They had no voting rights. No ability to live independently of men and no financial rights. Their were treated like chattel. If women were respected and loved and their children were supported, women's liberation would not exist. Women are human beings. Men don't seem to get that. Maybe they never will. We were not put on earth to be slaves and servants to men. Nor were men put on earth just to be protectors and providers to women.
We were ALL put on earth to co-create a loving, healthy, fair and just future for our children and all other living beings. We could do that if men would stop their violence, aggression and hyper-competitiveness and stop blaming women for everything that's wrong in the world.
Ultimately, women have tried endlessly to be heard and understood but right now women are so dine with men's violence. We we would have a better world if men could do that.
It's supremely ironic that the so-called "feminist" movement fought for trans rights and now trans rights are erasing women. We can no longer have our own sports, or say aloud that we are the only ones that birth and breastfeed babies, much less have our own bathrooms and changerooms.
Women may be interpreting the patriarcy now that they're in leadership positions, but their version is not harmful because it's still "patriarchy." It's harmful, as the essay highlights, because it's still status based and, as a new fully female twist, it uses reputational damage almost exclusively to control who is "in". That's a very female tactic because traditionally women have been in charge of preserving social and cultural norms within the community. That technique kept the outliers at bay.
I do not see their style of leadership as masculine in the least although I wholeheartedly agree that what is occurring now is misogynistic.
I can spot a 'Climber' a mile away. Hillary Clinton is a typical, grasping, climber. She stole everything not nailed down in the White House in a pitiful attempt to elevate herself. Michael Savage was right; 'Liberalism is a mental disorder.' Vassar was Lord of the Flies with books.
I don't know, where did I go wrong. I read, understood and related to this story. I lived through everything described, and literally walked away when I saw the hypocrisy of fellow students and their lack of manners. That made me all the more proud of my parents who instilled right values in us, as I'm sure Radha's parents did as well. Slowly but surely those societal norms were eviscerated as I witnessed in Radha's generation and those that followed.
I loved school, I was curious, I wanted to learn, read above my school level, never had a true friend, never was invited to an affair or dance, could care less about gym or school sports. I didn't attend college primarily because neither I or my parents could afford it. I did have the misfortune of meeting many college graduates who mocked me for no reason other than to validate their own egos at my expense. That stuck, but again, I ignored it. Didn't matter. I had what they didn't.
It's not that complicated, yet books are written about everything under the sun, many if not all to guide your thinking, topics that can be explained by simply invoking respect and common sense. Conflicts, passed hurts, grievances, can easily be resolved In this manner. Don't embrace something in any way that will not enhance your life's journey. I trust my instincts, laugh a lot, help others and when necessary, walk away. On a personal level, my boys make me laugh, and proud as well, when a person in their group of friends will ask me a question, and my boys will lean back in their chairs and say, "Man, you don't wanna go there". I WILL give you a direct answer.
Truly well written and insightful and full of social truths that are destructive in many ways. Growing up dirt poor.and being the first in my very large extended family to get that elusive Higher Education, I saw and experienced many the same issues. I was able to go to grad school only after my husband passed and the small insurance benefit I received. It was there that I noticed the social changes and how others were looked down upon as ‘uneducated or undereducated’ if they had just a bachelors degree. I was astounded and spoke out often at the denigration of others based on finances and educational standings. By that time I was quite a bit older than my classmates, and we never became ‘peers’ in any sense of that word.
While I did go on to teach at university I always stressed to my students that their education was not available to all, and to never look down on anyone because of it. Today I still say my educational degrees do NOT make me better or smarter than anyone else. It just means I had the financial resources to be able to read different books and get a piece of paper saying I learned something special. But did I? Does not matter who you are or where you came from, education is there no matter how old you are when you can and are ready.
Thank you for writing this piece and seeing the reality around you.
During the height of The Great COVID Panic, women in positions of authority were some of the most ardent freedom-denying Covid fanatics and lockdown/masking/vaccine tyrants out there. Who can forget NZ's one and only Jacinda Ardern, NY's deranged Kathy Hochul, the witch of Michigan Gretchen Whitmer, the horrible premier of Queensland Anna Palan-Chook, the EU's Ursula von Leyden, and many many more jackbooted female Covid nazis? Not me. These women would make Freddy Krueger shiver.
This stack is a skillful walk of the middle way between self righteous justification and self demonetization and flagellation. I much appreciate your exploration of this subject with equanimity that is rare these days.
> I must believe that a female president will be better than a male one ...
REPLY: Why do we have to accept that either choice is better than those who are shadow banned. Dr. VA Shiva comes to mind, and Jill Stein mentioning two. Why should Trump/Harris be the only slate to consider? Or their worn out ideas the only way forward?
Please define "Think". Because I understand what he means. But in case I don't your definition of think would be most helpful in understanding what you mean.
If you think that what's happening is about matriarchal systems of power you would be gravely mistaken. Studies have repeatedly proven that matriarchal systems are universally egalitarian and focused on reverence for life, child, family and community. They are cooperative by design.
What we're seeing is simply women's interpretation of patriarchy which we've all been indoctrinated into which is that power matters more than interrelationships - whether it's an individual wielding it, or a collective, men or women.
Educated women, having been raised in a culture under which women have endured oppression for millennia, are now seeing their rights slip away once again. Not to mention the very language we use for our bodies and experiences - non-men, front hole, chestfeeding anyone? Women have been forced to adopt a masculine style of leadership which every male tyrant has used successfully and many still do today. They see the mostly male clubs that engineer social upheaval through predatory capitalism, the exploitation of labour and the travesty of gonzo porn. Wheir response is a type of Stockholm Syndrome. What women wants to align themselves with being a target of that?
Trans ideology is eviscerating women's rights. Women, indoctrinated to always 'be kind' have been blind-sided by the sheer insanity of this misogynist ideology. What most women don't know is that it's tech bros who are engineering the erasure of women with their transhumanism agenda. Whether it's putting male rapists in women's prisons or prioritizing male trans surgeries over women's life-threatening gynecological treatment, men in women's sports or the loss of job opportunities and scholarships to men dressed as women, it's clear that the the only women who will survive are the ones who are willing to demonstrate a leadership style that enables them to fit in. Even if it's at the expense of their ethics.
And it's important to understand that it's actually men pulling the strings of women like Harris, but also many men in politics. I have no doubt that she's a puppet doing the bidding of her masters.
So, while I agree that white men are being treated unfairly in many ways, consider that against the backdrop of the sex trafficking trade which is exploding globally enslaving millions of women and children to service the buyers - mostly white male porn and prostitution buyers.
At the end if the day, it's not really about men and women so much as it's about power and who is abusing it - the elite men and their minions, both men and women, who enable them. Until humanity is willing to confront these people and make the decision not to enable those who abuse power, men will, by their sheer physical strength continue to impose their will on the rest of us.
The reason you and all other women were capable of raising children and having harmony is because there were men PROTECTING you and HUNTING for you and your children for all human history. This was then and this is now, but instutionalized. You have police, construction workers, butchers, military, road workers, etc., that are mostly MALES. We men have an INSTICNCT to protect women, not to rape them. If we were naturally rapists, feminism could've ever been possible. If our inclination were to opress women, why would we stop opressing you? The only reason you believe you don't need men or that men and women are equals is because there is an economic system and social norms that privileges you. Women is the PROTECTED sex while men is the DISPOSABLE sex. Look around you. We men didn't exclude wonen from political society because we are opressors. We did it because women are EMOTIONAL, SOLIPSISTIC, and MANIPULATIVE and there are a lot of SIMPS out there that will do anything to feed their fantasies and delusions for a bite of pussy. Women just are an obstacle for the order of men. Women are now in charge and civilization have never been more irrational. We just replaced physical violence for psychological violence.
Men love to believe that narrative but if that's true how is it that most men love to consume porn, violent porn, child porn? Porn is the ultimate degradation and dehumanization of women. Everywhere you look men seem to love bullying each other and those who are weaker.
The reality is that most men are emotional toddlers, bullies, or predators except for the small percentage of decent, compassionate, wise men that do have respect for women. The #MeToo movement was supposed to be a wake up call for men to call out other men for their misogynist behaviour. Instead, as always, women's concerns, stories and experiences were dismissed as overreaction or drama. Women were gaslit into believing that our experiences were trivial. Though there were a small percentage of women who were milking it, the vast majority of women shared their harrowing stories of abuse which were very real and deserved to be heard.
In any case, patriarchy also exploits men. You're correct that culture treats men as disposable. It's wrong but that's not women's fault. That's a function of our biology. Women bear children at a potential rate of 1 per year. We invest our entire bodies in the process . Men can potentially impregnate thousands of women in that same year. However, in a healthy society, in order for the species to survive, women choose only those men who have good genes and who prove they can provide. THAT'S BIOLOGY. It's not women's fault that men are treated as disposable.
My premise is that being a women does NOT mean privilege for the vast majority of women. Women work, just like men do AND care for children AND aging parents AND volunteer in their communities at far greater rates AND with NO PAY.
Instead of being angry at women, why not change the system that sets up both women and men to fail. A system BTW that is controlled by alpha male billionaires who have rigged it to benefit their tech bros and fellow billionaires in order to dominate the entire world.
Women aren't the problem. Women are trying to hold their sh*t together while men go off and fight their endless wars, watch war video games, play violent sports.
Women are afraid of men. We no longer see men as protectors if we ever did They aren't gentlemen. They aren't providers. Women's liberation became absolutely necessary BECAUSE men had failed to keep up their end if the biological roles. Women's lives were a hellscape at the beginning of the 1900's. Industrialization was destroying them and their children. They had no voting rights. No ability to live independently of men and no financial rights. Their were treated like chattel. If women were respected and loved and their children were supported, women's liberation would not exist. Women are human beings. Men don't seem to get that. Maybe they never will. We were not put on earth to be slaves and servants to men. Nor were men put on earth just to be protectors and providers to women.
We were ALL put on earth to co-create a loving, healthy, fair and just future for our children and all other living beings. We could do that if men would stop their violence, aggression and hyper-competitiveness and stop blaming women for everything that's wrong in the world.
Ultimately, women have tried endlessly to be heard and understood but right now women are so dine with men's violence. We we would have a better world if men could do that.
It's supremely ironic that the so-called "feminist" movement fought for trans rights and now trans rights are erasing women. We can no longer have our own sports, or say aloud that we are the only ones that birth and breastfeed babies, much less have our own bathrooms and changerooms.
Women may be interpreting the patriarcy now that they're in leadership positions, but their version is not harmful because it's still "patriarchy." It's harmful, as the essay highlights, because it's still status based and, as a new fully female twist, it uses reputational damage almost exclusively to control who is "in". That's a very female tactic because traditionally women have been in charge of preserving social and cultural norms within the community. That technique kept the outliers at bay.
I do not see their style of leadership as masculine in the least although I wholeheartedly agree that what is occurring now is misogynistic.
I can spot a 'Climber' a mile away. Hillary Clinton is a typical, grasping, climber. She stole everything not nailed down in the White House in a pitiful attempt to elevate herself. Michael Savage was right; 'Liberalism is a mental disorder.' Vassar was Lord of the Flies with books.
I don't know, where did I go wrong. I read, understood and related to this story. I lived through everything described, and literally walked away when I saw the hypocrisy of fellow students and their lack of manners. That made me all the more proud of my parents who instilled right values in us, as I'm sure Radha's parents did as well. Slowly but surely those societal norms were eviscerated as I witnessed in Radha's generation and those that followed.
I loved school, I was curious, I wanted to learn, read above my school level, never had a true friend, never was invited to an affair or dance, could care less about gym or school sports. I didn't attend college primarily because neither I or my parents could afford it. I did have the misfortune of meeting many college graduates who mocked me for no reason other than to validate their own egos at my expense. That stuck, but again, I ignored it. Didn't matter. I had what they didn't.
It's not that complicated, yet books are written about everything under the sun, many if not all to guide your thinking, topics that can be explained by simply invoking respect and common sense. Conflicts, passed hurts, grievances, can easily be resolved In this manner. Don't embrace something in any way that will not enhance your life's journey. I trust my instincts, laugh a lot, help others and when necessary, walk away. On a personal level, my boys make me laugh, and proud as well, when a person in their group of friends will ask me a question, and my boys will lean back in their chairs and say, "Man, you don't wanna go there". I WILL give you a direct answer.
Truly well written and insightful and full of social truths that are destructive in many ways. Growing up dirt poor.and being the first in my very large extended family to get that elusive Higher Education, I saw and experienced many the same issues. I was able to go to grad school only after my husband passed and the small insurance benefit I received. It was there that I noticed the social changes and how others were looked down upon as ‘uneducated or undereducated’ if they had just a bachelors degree. I was astounded and spoke out often at the denigration of others based on finances and educational standings. By that time I was quite a bit older than my classmates, and we never became ‘peers’ in any sense of that word.
While I did go on to teach at university I always stressed to my students that their education was not available to all, and to never look down on anyone because of it. Today I still say my educational degrees do NOT make me better or smarter than anyone else. It just means I had the financial resources to be able to read different books and get a piece of paper saying I learned something special. But did I? Does not matter who you are or where you came from, education is there no matter how old you are when you can and are ready.
Thank you for writing this piece and seeing the reality around you.
During the height of The Great COVID Panic, women in positions of authority were some of the most ardent freedom-denying Covid fanatics and lockdown/masking/vaccine tyrants out there. Who can forget NZ's one and only Jacinda Ardern, NY's deranged Kathy Hochul, the witch of Michigan Gretchen Whitmer, the horrible premier of Queensland Anna Palan-Chook, the EU's Ursula von Leyden, and many many more jackbooted female Covid nazis? Not me. These women would make Freddy Krueger shiver.
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This stack is a skillful walk of the middle way between self righteous justification and self demonetization and flagellation. I much appreciate your exploration of this subject with equanimity that is rare these days.
> I must believe that a female president will be better than a male one ...
REPLY: Why do we have to accept that either choice is better than those who are shadow banned. Dr. VA Shiva comes to mind, and Jill Stein mentioning two. Why should Trump/Harris be the only slate to consider? Or their worn out ideas the only way forward?
Pretty dismissive to say that people in “some STEM field” can’t think. Wow.
Hi KarMa,
Please define "Think". Because I understand what he means. But in case I don't your definition of think would be most helpful in understanding what you mean.
thank you