I enjoyed reading that, having become a grandmother 3 months ago. My daughter, although a doctor, decided to have a natural unmedicated birth at home, instead of a highly medicalized one like mine. I see from this article that she's doing everything right, with her baby is constantly on her chest or sleeping beside her. In my generation we were told to let them cry it out and learn to soothe themselves. BAD advice!
Thanks for this article! We need more articles like these that share the beauty of birth, babies, and humanity. Without this focus, we can see why the populace cares very little for human life: https://unorthodoxy.substack.com/p/democide-and-menticide
We live in such a retarded culture that it never ceases to astonish me. The reason that human babies have trouble being born is because the mothers deliver on their backs instead of on their feet. If you were to put an animal mother on her back, she too would have trouble delivering! The pelvis softens to let the head go smoothly through the canal with the aid of gravity. The reason we have such a stupid culture is because only men dictate the culture and women go along with it. Hate me all you like but that is why we actually do live in the culture for dummies.
"Crying serves as a catch-all distress signal to bring a caregiver to attend to the baby, at which point the specific cause can be narrowed down. Babies should never be left to "cry it out" as a form of discipline - crying always indicates a need that should be sensitively met."
I've been pondering this statement all day. I'm 62, and many in my parents generation believed in "cry it out." Our pediatrician reportedly told new mothers that "Your baby came to live with you, not the other way around ... he/she will just adapt to your schedule."
Kinda makes me wonder how much of the neuroticism and lack of empathy we see today was spawned by that approach?
I've thought about this too. It certainly cannot have helped. Whatever that baby's mental model of the world is, and whatever neuronal wiring develops would be influenced by the long bouts of "controlled crying", or from the baby's perspective, "abandonment".
Babies cry when born primarily as a reflex action to help initiate breathing and clear fluid from their lungs as they transition to the outside world. The extreme pressure change of passing through the birth canal compresses then expands the chest, forcing air in and resulting in a cry upon exhalation. Gentle birthing methods that allow the baby to transition gradually can minimize crying, showing it's not necessarily an inevitable part of birth.
This explains why my granddaughter swallowed Anatomic fluid when she was born a month ago via C-section, and spent a week in the NICU.
"A secure babyhood provides the basis for a successful adulthood. No baby can be loved too much." – Desmond Morris
The above quote reveals why America is the most psychologically dysfunctional First World country. It raises its babies in harmful ways that are peculiar to the USA:
*Minute amount of medical-leave, pre and post-partum.
*Mechanized delivery instead of more natural (ie, cesarean, invasive tests, injections, removing baby from mother immediately to measure weight).
*A general dislike for breastfeeding.
*Circumcision for most boys.
*Mechanized upbringing (ie, scheduled feedings and sleep vs. baby regulated).
*Lack of physical contact.
I can list more, but let these suffice. Let us also compare immigrant children who are raised by "old-fashioned" parents such as from Central America and Asia. These parents show a natural bonding that is typically lacking in native mothers and we do notice a difference in better behavior and higher functioning children. Tragically, we are always looking at "rocket science" for the answers to our problems when that is not necessary.
I enjoyed reading that, having become a grandmother 3 months ago. My daughter, although a doctor, decided to have a natural unmedicated birth at home, instead of a highly medicalized one like mine. I see from this article that she's doing everything right, with her baby is constantly on her chest or sleeping beside her. In my generation we were told to let them cry it out and learn to soothe themselves. BAD advice!
Thanks for this article! We need more articles like these that share the beauty of birth, babies, and humanity. Without this focus, we can see why the populace cares very little for human life: https://unorthodoxy.substack.com/p/democide-and-menticide
We live in such a retarded culture that it never ceases to astonish me. The reason that human babies have trouble being born is because the mothers deliver on their backs instead of on their feet. If you were to put an animal mother on her back, she too would have trouble delivering! The pelvis softens to let the head go smoothly through the canal with the aid of gravity. The reason we have such a stupid culture is because only men dictate the culture and women go along with it. Hate me all you like but that is why we actually do live in the culture for dummies.
I'll have to dedicate a substack to just this subject!
Thank you for that validation. I cannot use the "like" on substack anymore for some reason!
Same here with the dysfunctioning "like"; no mention in substack "help" section.
This makes it difficult for us to know how the widespread agreement. Substack needs to get onto this toute suite.
"Like" !
"Crying serves as a catch-all distress signal to bring a caregiver to attend to the baby, at which point the specific cause can be narrowed down. Babies should never be left to "cry it out" as a form of discipline - crying always indicates a need that should be sensitively met."
I've been pondering this statement all day. I'm 62, and many in my parents generation believed in "cry it out." Our pediatrician reportedly told new mothers that "Your baby came to live with you, not the other way around ... he/she will just adapt to your schedule."
Kinda makes me wonder how much of the neuroticism and lack of empathy we see today was spawned by that approach?
I've thought about this too. It certainly cannot have helped. Whatever that baby's mental model of the world is, and whatever neuronal wiring develops would be influenced by the long bouts of "controlled crying", or from the baby's perspective, "abandonment".
Babies cry when born primarily as a reflex action to help initiate breathing and clear fluid from their lungs as they transition to the outside world. The extreme pressure change of passing through the birth canal compresses then expands the chest, forcing air in and resulting in a cry upon exhalation. Gentle birthing methods that allow the baby to transition gradually can minimize crying, showing it's not necessarily an inevitable part of birth.
This explains why my granddaughter swallowed Anatomic fluid when she was born a month ago via C-section, and spent a week in the NICU.
Well this is just kinda fascinating! Thanks!!
"A secure babyhood provides the basis for a successful adulthood. No baby can be loved too much." – Desmond Morris
The above quote reveals why America is the most psychologically dysfunctional First World country. It raises its babies in harmful ways that are peculiar to the USA:
*Minute amount of medical-leave, pre and post-partum.
*Mechanized delivery instead of more natural (ie, cesarean, invasive tests, injections, removing baby from mother immediately to measure weight).
*A general dislike for breastfeeding.
*Circumcision for most boys.
*Mechanized upbringing (ie, scheduled feedings and sleep vs. baby regulated).
*Lack of physical contact.
I can list more, but let these suffice. Let us also compare immigrant children who are raised by "old-fashioned" parents such as from Central America and Asia. These parents show a natural bonding that is typically lacking in native mothers and we do notice a difference in better behavior and higher functioning children. Tragically, we are always looking at "rocket science" for the answers to our problems when that is not necessary.