Brilliant essay as usual. Thank you for collating important concepts into a palatable and clear form. My issue is that those of my closest female friends who would benefit most from reading this are childless and highly likely to react erratically !!! Because the "having or not having a baby" issue is a huge emotional wound, no matter now many bandages or anaesthetics are applied to it. Looking back at my professional and personal life, I would be OK with following many other paths. But there is one thing I would not change, being a mother and having the blessing of 3 daughters. The hardest and most rewarding role, that can turbo charge your own growth.
I was one of those women: control freak, taking care of a planet that is quite capable of taking care of itself, fake care for the homeless, the poor, etc all on my terms, of course. Over time as my life became emptier and H1-B abuse replaced me and a few others with Indians, I came to realize that children offered things that are intangible later in life. Yes they can be brats and later on rebellious, but the experience of a career and then discarded because it's cheaper to hire Indian Ph.D's than keep someone on the verge of receiving Medicare was a rude awakening to the real cost of childlessness: life empty to be filled only by a dog. Dogs are great companions that unconditionally love. However, there is no closure to dog ownership except the dog's death, just like the article states
Could this be the reason why we have more dogs than children in this country? How many dog owners are single childless educated women?
This makes so much sense; woman (and likely men as well, in ways) who do not reproduce apply their maternal insticts to society's ills, to social programs, they feel will 'take care' of people. As a woman with no children, I can see it in my own life as well. As the jabs 'remove' lots of people and babies from our future, this trend will continue; social causes are the new 'babies'. Thanks.
Our little baby grows up and leaves home, happily.
I had to learn how to let go. I was crying for a few days and so sad after my firstborn joyfully left town for college. I have tears in my eyes now just remembering it.
The excellent book that helped me to understand what he and I were both going through was, "Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money...", by Helen E. Johnson.
I highly recommend it to any woman experiencing the painful Empty Nest Syndrome.
Reading the second patholgy brought to mind the 1990 James Caan/Kathy Bates film (Movie) adaptation of the Stephen King novel 'Misery'. OK - not a precise pathology match, but an arguably close derivative. Scary drama to - bordering on horror.
Oh holy hell! This was fantastic and amazingly ... well, prescient is not the word ... but I've just been given an ENTIRE LIFE STRUCTURE to review and reclassify; and I'm 70 -- that's a LOT of life to disentangle! (Maybe 'retroactively prescient' is the description?)
E.g., My fights to try to protect friends, family, and neighbors (and strangers!) from the dangers of the bioweapon idiocy: I STILL have devouring-mother anger and despair at those who refused to listen (and, yeah, obey my ranting protectiveness); and a sense of triumph and gratitude for those few who DID listen and were "good and obedient children" for listening and NOT running headlong into danger.
Spread those devouring-mother drives to any of a hundred OTHER "I MUST protect the people I care for!" which travels on to "YOU MUST learn what I am teaching and DO what I am warning you about!" often with a desperate "PLEASE" attached! (I get a wry and apologetic chuckle that the strength of my "ardor" is titrated on how important the person is to me / in my life.)
Will have to reread several times and 'adjust' my desperate and devouring mothering of the whole damned world!
Once you think about it, besides providing human continuity, what is one’s purpose? We are animals after all, but what happens after the fledgings are sent to their purpose? Being conscious beings, isn’t it then the process of “mothering” ourselves the task? To make the self the best it can possibly evolve to and beyond?
I'm not sure I agree with you on this one... I believe that the powers that shouldn't be knew what they were doing. Women were nudged, encouraged, pushed, applauded and promoted when assuming their new childless, overprotective / devouring role. We've always had women developing possessive relationships with their offspring, this appears a lot in history, literature, films..., but the institutions wanted this ideology to become dominant and completely changed the narrative to fit their agenda. Psychologically fit women are good fighters, and we don't give up. This type of approval from a male dominated society seemed to be too good to be true to many of us (I am an awake single / childless woman from the early sixties). To me, it looks like another inversion. This debate is very important, thank you for this article Unbekoming. 🙂
re: I believe that the powers that shouldn't be knew what they were doing. Women were nudged, encouraged, pushed, applauded and promoted when assuming their new childless, overprotective / devouring role.
Indeed, the essay elides the role of state/ruling class propaganda, social engineering and psychological warfare.
A lot of good stuff in this essay but there's a lot missing too. In the 1960's a - say a machinist - could afford to have a stay-at-home wife, to have kids, he could send his kids to college, and have enough left over for a vacation cabin in the woods. By the 1970's that same person would need two incomes, then have to pay childcare with declining real wages - to the present.
This essay does not talk about the role of economic issues.
This essay talks a lot about the role of "experts" but does not talk about how these experts came to be the "experts." That is, who decides what areas of study are studied? The short answer is big (that is, oligarch) foundations and the state. Also unmentioned is the role of propaganda, social engineering and psychological warfare. Do we forget so quickly that one of the most famous feminists, Gloria Steinam, was a CIA asset? Or that eugenics or Malthusianism
- ruling class ideologies - have been rebranded as the "Climate Movement"?
It's like we discuss Covid without mentioning the role of the state and military. Here's a recent quote from Debbie Lerman:
"...Operation Warp Speed was legally launched on February 4, 2020 – resulting in the worldwide forced vaccination of billions of people, millions of whom were injured or killed.
Almost exactly six years later, on January 21, 2026, President Donald Trump – who is currently worshipped as an anti-globalist populist hero – was heard at the premier globalist WEF power shindig in Davos, bragging about Operation Warp Speed:
“Some people say it was one of the greatest military feats ever.”
Some people who heard Trump say this were surprised. Why would a President – elected based on his promises to cut the military budget, stop wars and foreign interventions, and focus on the health and well being of the civilian population – not just admit that Covid was a military operation, but actually brag about it?"
~~
You talk about these massive changes in society without mentioning the context, that all these changes are happening inside a predatory imperial capitalist system (that attacks even its own population) in which a handful of individuals control as much wealth as the rest of the world's population combined.
Remember, please, during the COVID “crisis” Dr Birx bragged about changing data every evening and then presenting that bogus “scientific “ tracking data to Trump. Trump assumed the honesty of government “scientists” Birx & Fauci. Second term, Trump brought in outsider RFK, jr. Thank God!
In my opinion, the essay presents the mothering "situation" in very broad terms. The shift from maternal 'home and family' values to those of institutional dictate are valid, yet these dictates are much too stark for most persons to apply to corrective behaviors. Most will simply duck for cover... That said: The loss of 'village' and/or small communal endeavor have destroyed the identities of the feminine-sexual, the potential partner/mate, and the realities of material survival. These organic and necessary attentions have been glossed into false ambitions within huge institutional constructs. Example of a manufactured reality: "Be all you can be." Erm???
How about just being real? How about admitting that the village, the home, and the clan, well described all that needed to be said about being human? Machines will never free us regardless of how sophisticated the construct. The industrial/mechanical paradigm negates the human soul, period...
On 24 February 2023 at 13:16 Jane <jaibelle_58@ wrote:
Greta's parents are satanists. Her grandfather had something to do with the climate change hoax. I don't recall the particulars but it's apparent that Greta (there is speculation that she was born a male) was brainwashed from an early age and exploited by her parents who were being paid millions to keep Greta in the public eye.
Notice that she never criticizes China or India for their massive pollution? China is moving full speed ahead on building coal plants while the U.S. is crippling our economy with all kinds of anti-fossil fuel legislation or regulations. The traitors in our government need to be removed and executed.
The medical professionals tell new moms a big lie and it screws up our brain. They say as they hand us the baby that we just delivered, "Here is your baby."
No, it's not OUR baby. The baby is its own being. We don't own him or her.
Mothers are merely the miracle workers who create, with God's hand, a beautiful little human being to walk on this earth.
Unbekoming - I don't know if you are a man or a woman, but this was an excellent article. Thank you for bringing up this subject. It allows us to take a moment and reflect on what motherhood means.
After all the hell my ex-husband put me (and the children) through for about 17 years, I would have to say I would go through it again just to have my two handsome sons.
With strength and determination, I fought him for many years (without my own mother even speaking up for me) in order to maintain a relationship with the sons.
I make sure to give my adult sons my love and honesty to this day. I do my best to let them be adults - hey, they're both middle-aged now.
Abortion is a big topic - Millions of women have killed their own offspring before they had a chance to be born.
Some women were suckered into doing this, thinking there was no other option. I almost got trapped into it when only 17 years old, but a day later found out I wasn't pregnant. I then went straight to the doctor and got a prescription for The Pill.
A friend of mine has never been married, has lived with her big mutt dog for a few years and considers him her "best friend" according to a video she posted to her Instagram while Queen's song "You're My Best Friend" played in the background.
Her newest post is stating she just had her 40th birthday and she wants to find a husband, have some children, buy some land and a homestead where they can raise chickens and grow food.
Brilliant essay as usual. Thank you for collating important concepts into a palatable and clear form. My issue is that those of my closest female friends who would benefit most from reading this are childless and highly likely to react erratically !!! Because the "having or not having a baby" issue is a huge emotional wound, no matter now many bandages or anaesthetics are applied to it. Looking back at my professional and personal life, I would be OK with following many other paths. But there is one thing I would not change, being a mother and having the blessing of 3 daughters. The hardest and most rewarding role, that can turbo charge your own growth.
I was one of those women: control freak, taking care of a planet that is quite capable of taking care of itself, fake care for the homeless, the poor, etc all on my terms, of course. Over time as my life became emptier and H1-B abuse replaced me and a few others with Indians, I came to realize that children offered things that are intangible later in life. Yes they can be brats and later on rebellious, but the experience of a career and then discarded because it's cheaper to hire Indian Ph.D's than keep someone on the verge of receiving Medicare was a rude awakening to the real cost of childlessness: life empty to be filled only by a dog. Dogs are great companions that unconditionally love. However, there is no closure to dog ownership except the dog's death, just like the article states
Could this be the reason why we have more dogs than children in this country? How many dog owners are single childless educated women?
This makes so much sense; woman (and likely men as well, in ways) who do not reproduce apply their maternal insticts to society's ills, to social programs, they feel will 'take care' of people. As a woman with no children, I can see it in my own life as well. As the jabs 'remove' lots of people and babies from our future, this trend will continue; social causes are the new 'babies'. Thanks.
Our little baby grows up and leaves home, happily.
I had to learn how to let go. I was crying for a few days and so sad after my firstborn joyfully left town for college. I have tears in my eyes now just remembering it.
The excellent book that helped me to understand what he and I were both going through was, "Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money...", by Helen E. Johnson.
I highly recommend it to any woman experiencing the painful Empty Nest Syndrome.
Link:
https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Tell-What-Just-Money/dp/B00969G4NS
That book title reminded me of one I read when my older daughter was a teenager. The title was 'Get out of my life, but first will you do my washing?'
Great essay! One of the best frameworks that I have read for understanding western culture and society.
Reading the second patholgy brought to mind the 1990 James Caan/Kathy Bates film (Movie) adaptation of the Stephen King novel 'Misery'. OK - not a precise pathology match, but an arguably close derivative. Scary drama to - bordering on horror.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0100157/
Oh holy hell! This was fantastic and amazingly ... well, prescient is not the word ... but I've just been given an ENTIRE LIFE STRUCTURE to review and reclassify; and I'm 70 -- that's a LOT of life to disentangle! (Maybe 'retroactively prescient' is the description?)
E.g., My fights to try to protect friends, family, and neighbors (and strangers!) from the dangers of the bioweapon idiocy: I STILL have devouring-mother anger and despair at those who refused to listen (and, yeah, obey my ranting protectiveness); and a sense of triumph and gratitude for those few who DID listen and were "good and obedient children" for listening and NOT running headlong into danger.
Spread those devouring-mother drives to any of a hundred OTHER "I MUST protect the people I care for!" which travels on to "YOU MUST learn what I am teaching and DO what I am warning you about!" often with a desperate "PLEASE" attached! (I get a wry and apologetic chuckle that the strength of my "ardor" is titrated on how important the person is to me / in my life.)
Will have to reread several times and 'adjust' my desperate and devouring mothering of the whole damned world!
See that in myself as well. I guess all we can really do is take care of ourselves, that is the best example I suppose.
Once you think about it, besides providing human continuity, what is one’s purpose? We are animals after all, but what happens after the fledgings are sent to their purpose? Being conscious beings, isn’t it then the process of “mothering” ourselves the task? To make the self the best it can possibly evolve to and beyond?
I'm not sure I agree with you on this one... I believe that the powers that shouldn't be knew what they were doing. Women were nudged, encouraged, pushed, applauded and promoted when assuming their new childless, overprotective / devouring role. We've always had women developing possessive relationships with their offspring, this appears a lot in history, literature, films..., but the institutions wanted this ideology to become dominant and completely changed the narrative to fit their agenda. Psychologically fit women are good fighters, and we don't give up. This type of approval from a male dominated society seemed to be too good to be true to many of us (I am an awake single / childless woman from the early sixties). To me, it looks like another inversion. This debate is very important, thank you for this article Unbekoming. 🙂
re: I believe that the powers that shouldn't be knew what they were doing. Women were nudged, encouraged, pushed, applauded and promoted when assuming their new childless, overprotective / devouring role.
Indeed, the essay elides the role of state/ruling class propaganda, social engineering and psychological warfare.
"The truth is the whole."
A lot of good stuff in this essay but there's a lot missing too. In the 1960's a - say a machinist - could afford to have a stay-at-home wife, to have kids, he could send his kids to college, and have enough left over for a vacation cabin in the woods. By the 1970's that same person would need two incomes, then have to pay childcare with declining real wages - to the present.
This essay does not talk about the role of economic issues.
This essay talks a lot about the role of "experts" but does not talk about how these experts came to be the "experts." That is, who decides what areas of study are studied? The short answer is big (that is, oligarch) foundations and the state. Also unmentioned is the role of propaganda, social engineering and psychological warfare. Do we forget so quickly that one of the most famous feminists, Gloria Steinam, was a CIA asset? Or that eugenics or Malthusianism
- ruling class ideologies - have been rebranded as the "Climate Movement"?
It's like we discuss Covid without mentioning the role of the state and military. Here's a recent quote from Debbie Lerman:
"...Operation Warp Speed was legally launched on February 4, 2020 – resulting in the worldwide forced vaccination of billions of people, millions of whom were injured or killed.
Almost exactly six years later, on January 21, 2026, President Donald Trump – who is currently worshipped as an anti-globalist populist hero – was heard at the premier globalist WEF power shindig in Davos, bragging about Operation Warp Speed:
“Some people say it was one of the greatest military feats ever.”
Some people who heard Trump say this were surprised. Why would a President – elected based on his promises to cut the military budget, stop wars and foreign interventions, and focus on the health and well being of the civilian population – not just admit that Covid was a military operation, but actually brag about it?"
~~
You talk about these massive changes in society without mentioning the context, that all these changes are happening inside a predatory imperial capitalist system (that attacks even its own population) in which a handful of individuals control as much wealth as the rest of the world's population combined.
Remember, please, during the COVID “crisis” Dr Birx bragged about changing data every evening and then presenting that bogus “scientific “ tracking data to Trump. Trump assumed the honesty of government “scientists” Birx & Fauci. Second term, Trump brought in outsider RFK, jr. Thank God!
In my opinion, the essay presents the mothering "situation" in very broad terms. The shift from maternal 'home and family' values to those of institutional dictate are valid, yet these dictates are much too stark for most persons to apply to corrective behaviors. Most will simply duck for cover... That said: The loss of 'village' and/or small communal endeavor have destroyed the identities of the feminine-sexual, the potential partner/mate, and the realities of material survival. These organic and necessary attentions have been glossed into false ambitions within huge institutional constructs. Example of a manufactured reality: "Be all you can be." Erm???
How about just being real? How about admitting that the village, the home, and the clan, well described all that needed to be said about being human? Machines will never free us regardless of how sophisticated the construct. The industrial/mechanical paradigm negates the human soul, period...
For Greta Thunberg, see From Andrzej, a TI in Switzerland
2022/08/24
https://principia-scientific.com/what-a-coincidence-greta-thunberg-is-related-to-the-rothschild-clan/
and this from Jane in Texas
2023/2/24
On 24 February 2023 at 13:16 Jane <jaibelle_58@ wrote:
Greta's parents are satanists. Her grandfather had something to do with the climate change hoax. I don't recall the particulars but it's apparent that Greta (there is speculation that she was born a male) was brainwashed from an early age and exploited by her parents who were being paid millions to keep Greta in the public eye.
Notice that she never criticizes China or India for their massive pollution? China is moving full speed ahead on building coal plants while the U.S. is crippling our economy with all kinds of anti-fossil fuel legislation or regulations. The traitors in our government need to be removed and executed.
Jane
The medical professionals tell new moms a big lie and it screws up our brain. They say as they hand us the baby that we just delivered, "Here is your baby."
No, it's not OUR baby. The baby is its own being. We don't own him or her.
Mothers are merely the miracle workers who create, with God's hand, a beautiful little human being to walk on this earth.
Unbekoming - I don't know if you are a man or a woman, but this was an excellent article. Thank you for bringing up this subject. It allows us to take a moment and reflect on what motherhood means.
After all the hell my ex-husband put me (and the children) through for about 17 years, I would have to say I would go through it again just to have my two handsome sons.
With strength and determination, I fought him for many years (without my own mother even speaking up for me) in order to maintain a relationship with the sons.
I make sure to give my adult sons my love and honesty to this day. I do my best to let them be adults - hey, they're both middle-aged now.
When I look at them, I still see the little boy.
Abortion is a big topic - Millions of women have killed their own offspring before they had a chance to be born.
Some women were suckered into doing this, thinking there was no other option. I almost got trapped into it when only 17 years old, but a day later found out I wasn't pregnant. I then went straight to the doctor and got a prescription for The Pill.
It's a trap.
A friend of mine has never been married, has lived with her big mutt dog for a few years and considers him her "best friend" according to a video she posted to her Instagram while Queen's song "You're My Best Friend" played in the background.
Her newest post is stating she just had her 40th birthday and she wants to find a husband, have some children, buy some land and a homestead where they can raise chickens and grow food.
It's seems a little sad.